It's been a lazy weekend, but I did make the effort to visit a friend at a local skilled nursing facility. When I arrived, I smiled and said, "I brought a little sunshine," as I held up the yellow Gerbera Daisies. He was pleased to see me, but the visit was short-lived. I excused myself after about 10 minutes when his son arrived. It was more important that they spend time together ... and I promised to come again.
When I purchased the yellow ones for my friend, I treated myself with these pink ones. They are lovely and cheerful ... a treat I needed.
When I was twelve, I enjoyed visiting the Friendly Home in Rochester, New York. I brought the curiosity that helped the elders share their stories. It felt good to give them an opportunity to engage.
Today was different. I left feeling like I was suffocating. I couldn't breathe and tears flowed. Too much the reminder that my parents are gone and one day I will hear the news that my friend is gone too.
Although I feel pretty healthy, I am on the shorter side of life. Almost everyone I saw was in a wheelchair and many had vacant gazes. I was reminded that I have not prepared for this coming stage of my life. Do any of us really prepare?
So, when I got home I took a moment to photograph my vibrant Gerbera and contemplated bringing a bit of cheer to more of the elderly ... especially those who don't have regular visitors.
I know it meant a lot to him for you to visit, even if it was a short one. I think that's a commendable calling to visit those in homes like that, or those who live alone.
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I know just what you mean, Lissa.
ReplyDeleteI volunteer in a nursing home, and although I am so glad I do, some days it is so difficult.
I am sure your visit meant so much to your friend.
I love your gerbera image - and I love your heart for the lonely too.
ReplyDeleteWorking with these folks Lissa, I have to say that there are many different ways of aging. some of them do not look so bad... Now is the preparation time for who you want to be "then". so nice to see you! I have really been away for over a month enjoying time off from that job I had, and now... on to another, and I am pretty sure, a much better job. Sorry I missed you when I was there... barely got to leave the airport area as this was where the conference was. Next time!
ReplyDeleteI understand exactly how you are feeling...when you are on the shorter side of life...emotions can sometimes get away from us!
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